Lack of respect in the genes?

I've been talking with a female friend of mine, and we've hit upon a problem that we feel most females come across in their dating/sex lives: the unreliability of men.



Let me explain:



You meet someone (whether it's a friend of a friend, or just some random guy off the street, or someone online), they make the effort, they woo you, they pay you compliments, they compare thee to a summer's day yadda yadda yadda. To begin with you're a little reluctant (haven't we all been taught to play a little hard to get?), you want to get the feel of the person: is he a shoe-adoring weirdo? is he a still-live-at-home-with-mummy-dearest kind of man? is he allright?... So you start to know the guy and he's off: you're fantastic, wonderful, he's never met anyone like you etc etc etc, you know the drill. Then you start to like him, to let yourself go, to feel comfortable in his company, you start imagining how it would be to have a serious relationship with him or, as I say, you make a film in your own head (I always thought it was just me doing that, but I've discovered nearly everyone does it!).

And then BAM! He disappears.

Doesn't show up, doesn't return calls/SMS/e-mails, doesn't answer the phone.
When he does, he's evasive, un-catchable like fog.

Finally, frustrated, baffled, confused, you ask him outright: are you a wanker? a jerk? an idiot? a psycho? or whatever-the-fuck-you-are? Did I do something wrong? You put your point to him in a rational, thought out manner. And he can't come up with a real answer. All the excuses in the world will tumble out of his mouth or his fingers, but none that will really satisfy you. Because you knew, in that very first instant when he stopped calling/returning calls/showing up etc, when he first let you down, that whatever excuse he had would never ever fully explain why he couldn't just tell you: I don't want to see you anymore.

Guys are so scared of telling a woman those few words, I find it to be a shocking lack of respect. You don't like me, I annoy you, I irk you, I revolt you, disgust you or just simply bore you? Then just fucking tell me. What's the worst that could happen: blanching your pet rabbit for dinner? We're not in a movie!!

So guys, here's the thing: just be straight with us. For good or bad it's the best tactic you could ever employ. Trust me on this one.

S