The waiting game

There are some simple, if cliched, truths that one is repeated throughout one's life. We all think: nah, that doesn't apply to me, or that can't possibly be true! But the reality is that if they just seem to be stereotypes or platitudes, there must be some truth to them. I've personally tried to see the truth behind the cliche' in many cases, but very often, I get back right to where I started from.

A case in point is this: no matter how much men may say that they like women to be proactive, to make the first move, to chase after them, to court them, it is simply not true! They still live in the time of the caves when they had to hit a woman over the head and drag her by the hair. Yes, they still like doing the chasing, they like being in control of the courtship because, let's face it, they are no longer in control of anything else (nearly)! So, when I am told by a guy who clearly fancies me and who's taken me out a couple of times that he'll call me, when he doesn't I ask myself why, and as a result would also like to resolve the situation and move on. I decided to just leave the guy in question, S., be. I have lost patience with men who don't know what they want. So imagine my surprise when, nearly two months on, he contacted me again as if nothing's happened! And it's actually the second man in a matter of days to "come back" from the recycle bin of relationships. Go figure!

So, I've learned that waiting and not making a move often pays, at least for us women. I don't think it works the other way round. So now, I'm going to use it fully to my advantage, and play hard to get. It's just that we have to stoop to their level, you know? ;)

Love to all,

S